It seems like you are overlooking a lot of red flags and participating in the kinds of conversations you say you don’t want. If you don’t want a guy who just wants sex, don’t go for a guy whose initial messages are about your physical appearance, a guy who uses cheesy lines like “how are you still single?” (When he hasn’t even met you and has possible reference point for that comment), a guy who mentions kissing before you’ve met, or a guy who wants to meet you for the first time after 7pm. And if a guy starts mentioning sex or sleeping over or meeting late at night, DONT RESPOND. 95% of women just delete and block guys who do that. If you engage, you’re basically laying out the welcome mat for them. If you don’t want that, don’t participate. If you set higher standards for yourself, you won’t invite in the wrong kinda of guys.