as seen on these forums often, it's all too easy for clients to distract from the real issues that brought them to therapy and get caught up into this trap of over analysing and dissecting every little interaction in and outside of the therapeutic relationship, which, as you pointed out, clearly is a product of the ambiguity of the relationship and therapy itself. i too got caught into this trap and all it did was make my symptoms worse and had me doubting my own sanity at times. it wasn't until i could truely recognise and acknowledge just how unhealthy the relationship was that i was able to work towards breaking free from it.