I think having dependence on my T is something that is not only ok but for me needs to happen in the sense, I need to be able to depend on her being on time and reliable, kind and supportive, and depend that with her knowledge and experiences she is putting my needs first. I need to depend on her for emotional support when I need it and depend that she's a safe person for me. I think without depending on her for these things, progress would be very limited for me because I'm not a big talker generally.

I think there is a balance though and over dependencey can bring negatives, if my deprndcy got to a point where I needed to talk to her everyday, or that I felt I couldn't make a decision without her or even breathe without her then obviously that would be depending on her too much and we would need to relook at the relationship, but as it stands I think I've got the balance pretty much where I need it.

I suppose depending on someone yet keeping your own independence