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Originally Posted by cptsdwhoa
Hey everyone, how are you?
I'm well. There's been a lot going on on my end, but I am FINALLY free of the abusive situation I was in! I moved out and I'm loving having my own place. Thank God for that. There is hope.
One of my abusers, so I've heard anyway, is checking up on my Facebook page though (and telling people lies about me and wanting them to check up on my page by friend requesting me). This is my first time really being back on social media since myspace. So, the idea that this abuser is doing this is nerve wracking. We aren't friends on there so they can't see anything I don't make public. Still, it's like I'm being watched even after leaving.
What do you think...should I make everything only for my friends to see, or like get off of Facebook? I just got on there a few days ago. I don't want to be too afraid to live my life. I was thinking if anyone asks anymore questions wondering about what this person has said, then I would tell them that they lie and stop believing them. It's exhausting having to go back and make sure people know the truth from the lies.
Also, I started therapy. The first two sessions were just paperwork. So, the therapy starts at our next session. She's not too familiar with C-PTSD symptoms. Any advice on how to proceed with a therapist that isn't too familiar with C-PTSD. I gave her this article to explain some of my symptoms: Life-Impacting Symptoms of Complex PTSD | The Mighty
She said she would read it. I will read Pete Walker's book: Redirect Notice and go through that with her. I'm thinking that may be an okay start.
Thanks all. |
my first thought is your question asking .........us...... whether you should change your facebook settings or leave facebook....
you just got out of an abusive relationship where you can now make your own decisions and whats happening you are asking others to make your decision for you...
yea making your own life is hard after someone has been in control huh. you have finally taken a big step for your health safety and well being. its now time to take the next step and you be in control of what ..........you......... want to do.
let me show you something.... if I say change your settings and something happens are you going top hold me responsible? if I tell you to get off facebook are you going to hold me responsible for your leaving?
yea its easy to make others the bad guy, ask others what to do and then what ever happens you cant say you made the decision yourself, you could blame who ever on psych central that told you to do it.
sorry so sorry but Im not going to be this fall guy. you have made a great leap for yourself and Im not going to deminish that leap by telling you what to do now.
if you want to stay or leave facebook thats your decision.
if you want to reset your settings or leave them alone thats your decision.
if you are asking how my own facebook settings are and whether I leave facebook any time something happens.... my answer is I have a few facebook accounts..... personal (friends and family), work related,.... I set each of these settings for what I want them to be at given what the accounts are for. Yes sometimes I do take breaks but its no reflection on others that are on facebook. I determine when I need breaks based on how I am feeling that day.
my suggestion is now that you are free, dont hop back into the frying pan of letting others be in control of you physically or emotionally. take time to breath and decide what ..............you ..............want to do and need to do for ........You.