Absolutely yes, this is very common. Just about everyone I know who's experienced multiple abuses has felt some kind of pattern when they looked closer at it.
It may not even be experiencing the same type of abuse over and over. My first abuser was mostly verbal and emotional. From there, I sought out secondary relationships that were emotionally unstable, and one-sided, feeling like I had to 'prove myself worthy' by doing favors or being constantly 'on call' to help. That's a pattern I still struggle with to this day.
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