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Old Aug 26, 2018, 01:50 PM
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Originally Posted by Stone92 View Post
I would need more information to give a real opinion about this. But you are right about one thing, I'm sure your disapproval is not helping her mental health.


Even if you turn out to be right, in the long term, it will do more harm than good to try to control her with your disapproval. It's her life. She needs to be allowed to make her own choices, even if you think she's making a mistake.

She needs your love and support now more than ever. If I were you, that's what I would focus on. Not on her spouse, or what you think she's doing wrong. Let her know you love and care about her. And that you'll be there for her no matter what. Even if she's not making the choice you want her to. She still wants your love and support.
Well said! I tried to say that!
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