Seeker...I am sorry that you have had such a negative experience with CBT. I too suffered abuse and neglect in all forms for the first 20 years of my life. As a result, I have many negative thought patterns and blame myself for the abuse. My T has helped me change those thoughts through CBT to validate my experiences and begin to put the blame where it belongs with those that caused the abuse.

Your T should never want to you change thoughts that you do not agree are disturbing. Next time they attempt this I would tell them that you feel the thought or behavior is helpful and useful and find no reason to change it.