Just getting through the day without having a meltdown and not letting my daughter push my buttons and get into an argument is pretty much my goal. If I go beyond that, the day has been spectacular.

But self betterment means different things to different people. If I've read a good book (usually fiction), watched a TV show that made me think, took the time to soak in an Espom salt bath, I look at that as self-care and betterment. My loftiest goals are to increase family time and especially increase it with my daughter without growing bored or without her getting frustrated with me. But that is only when I'm really doing well.

If I go to church, even if I haven't been in 6 months, I feel that's self-betterment. Or if I attend a book club meeting to talk about a book, I'm getting out of the house, being around other people.

For me, self-betterment is small steps and goals indeed.