Hi candy,

Do you think part of it is pressure from someone else for you to be less weight?

I use to apply so much pressure to be that size too. What helped me was to choose different types of friends. I found happiness in new thoughts.

It is interesting that when I decided to take the pressure of weight off myself, that I met different type of men. I was no longer being hit on by the ones only wanting sex. (Seems I was a magnet for the wrong type of guy - and they are so so charming.)

I now look for men that have intellegence first. They must have that or I don't have any interest in them. Over the years this has developed into a complete avoidence of that type. I will say a few words to them, and nothing else.

I love the intellegent men, and sex happens in a natural and warm way.

Colors