Thank you very much Skeezyks. I am certainly a codependent, unfortunately with some Borderline traits (diagnosed).

He has not worked in 4 years and lived at home when he was not seeing me. I went as far as to get him started with an eBay store selling art prints on consignment from one of my clients who is liquidating a huge art collects. That ebay store has 750 items worth $30,000.

He is textbook immature-dependent and is very slight, soft spoken and "quirky" attractive. It started as a hookup but as time went on, I realized I loved him for all his quirkiness, gentleness and personality. We shared some rather unique interest which made be believe I found a soul mate and he is the only person who sees me as kind and loving.

Here is the bottom line on him:

• 28 years old, no job.
• Lives at home, unless he suddenly moved in with the new "friend".
• Green card holder but not yet a citizen.
• Completed the coursework a psychology degree but never did an internship and never earned a degree.
• Save for what sold on eBay and a few dollars he earned from odd jobs, no money. Maybe earned $1000 this year as the eBay store did not start until December of last year and is finally taking off.

I am a textbook enabler. If you really want to kick me in the ***, I am fifteen years older than him.

But I tried. I tried pushing him to get some kind of job other than the eBay store. I tried convincing him to get his Citizenship. I tried suggestions for at least getting leveraging his psychology studies to get some kind of a degree.

Not only am I hurt and angry that he dumped me so suddenly without any indication or discussion, but he has immediately dove into getting a job and Citizenship and following my advice, after a new person came into his life.

I am not only angry, I am embarrassed and humiliated.