Well, what would you say if I told you I'm half Hispanic and half English/Scottish? I've got that disparity rumbling around inside of me! I keep a stiff upper lip when I need to, like in emergencies and I can keep my tears and passion hidden when needed. But I sure wouldn't trade my passion for ANYTHING! That's why the Italians are loud and boisterous. Being verbally abusive is a whole 'nuther story, though! In my estimation, it doesn't go hand in hand with being loud or expressing what one is feeling at the moment.

The thought crossed my mind that there was sure to be other Scots on the board, but I dismissed the thought of stepping on toes because it's understood that I was on a rant. In the 30 years that I've been with my husband, I've learned much about the "coldness," especially in his family. My FIL was especially verbally abusive to my husband when he was growing up. He was also abusive to his wife. My MIL was the only one that showed her feelings although in a very small way. She had beautiful stories to tell when she wanted to make a point or let someone else know what she was feeling. She passed away just a few short months before my own mother did and I still miss her almost as much as I miss my own mother. So you see? I wasn't necessarily passing judgment on anyone. I was just expressing my "passion" for the situation.

And as for writing my husband's sister a letter? Nah! She's not worth it! It would be giving her too much importance. The likelyhood is that we'll never cross paths ever again. My FIL disliked me, she dislikes me, but... my husband loves me! THAT is what matters!