Telling someone what you think happened to them is a big red flag in therapy. Can lead to false memories.

Twenty years ago, they thought you had to have been sexually abused if you had BPD. They thought I had BPD (which I do), so they assumed I was abused. At one point I was forced to lie about being abused because they told me I was faking if I wasn't and I'd lose my resources.

My ex-T assumed I'd be the most emotional over my mother because most the emotional abuse and neglect came from her. She was wrong. I was indifferent to my mom; numb. My dad on the other hand, is where I got emotional. He was my main support in my childhood even though he neglected me too. But because he chose my sister over me, my relationship with him causes me pain.