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Originally Posted by eskielover
Just to clarify.....we don't consciously know the relationship is going to be bad when getting into ut. I thought through & rationalized that it couldn't possible end up like my parents because of the differences. I thought even with the issues I was having that they would iron out in the marriage. Also because of the normals we sometimes grow up with those red flags we see looking back on them were just normal functional problems that people explain away be "that's JUST how guys (or gals) are"
I stated in my original response that hoping to meet someone & be happy is NOT unreasonable. I even stated that if the right person even at my age showed up I could be convinced to go for it again no matter how bad my first marriage was. If the connection (which I have now learned to recognize) is there, the happiness of being with the right person is worth it.....otherwise I will stay single & continue to take care of myself.
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Hi. First of all, let me apologise for 2 things. First of all, it has been a very busy weekend, so I apologise for only answering you now. Secondly, I was replying to your previous message in a bit of a rush before heading to work, so I’m sorry for not taking the time to properly read what you had written and respond to it more accurately. Having read your messages again, I can definitely see your point of view and can understand a lot of what you say. I think I hold some similar views to you, albeit without as much personal experience.
I suppose, I just feel uncertain of where I am and what I can do. I dislike being single, but I also don’t want to get involved with someone when there’s no connection, or if it’s just going to make me unhappy. I’m not the kind of person who’ll have a purely physical relationship (friends with benefits) and I’m not someone who enjoys one-night-stands, so that’s not something I’d want to do either. It’s been so long since I’ve felt something for someone in a romantic way that now I’m not sure, when I meet someone (or spend an extended period of time with them), whether the fact I don’t feel anything for them is because there’s no chemistry, or because I just haven't been feeling anything for anyone for a long time. Aside from waiting, which I feel I’ve been doing for the past few years anyway, what else can I do?