Nicole, I remember your posts about him from years ago. What he did was abusive and not ok. If I remember correctly, he stopped the sexualisation and cut off all affection and continued to see you as his client? Are you still seeing him? It does sound like a very damaging, abusive relationship. If you are still seeing him, I can understand that leaving might be very painful but perhaps, you could seek someone else to help with the transition? You should also consider reporting him but I'm sure you know that already.

You've been seeing him for a long time, haven't you?

sending hugs