Aviza, I am not sure about the history you have with your mom. I assume you are an adult which I take it would be the reason she finds your presence difficult. You mention you have a limited income with which to support yourself. Would it be more suitable to stay but on terms with your mother. I myself allowed my adult children to live at home while they got on their feet but I did so with the expectation that they contribute to the household. I charged room and board and expected them to do a share of the household chores and upkeep. In return they had a place to stay at a low rent, some earned privacy, and a sense of independence.
You might wish to consider having such an arrangement with your mother. Sit down and have an honest and serious conversation about roles, expectations, and terms of understanding (boundaries, barriers, etc). Even if you do not contribute financially to your living arrangement this is a discussion you ought to have.
Anyway, my point is that staying with mom need not be so negative I think as long as you contribute and as long as you two respect the 'rules'. This need only be temporary while you save your remaining income for eventually moving out.
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