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Old Aug 28, 2018, 09:52 AM
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Originally Posted by Dnester View Post
I am going to tell her next session (which is Wed) that I don't do theories well. Hopefully that will help.
I get the temptation to use this strategy. Kind of shoulder the problem yourself by saying that you don't do theories well.

You *hope* this will help -- will kind of quiet her down and lessen the weirdness that she has brought into therapy. Hope is not a strategy.

Your dodge (dressed up as hope) is unlikely to work long-term? She may simply say, Well then! There there... You can learn to do theories better..starting with my (crackpot) theory. And you are back at square one with her ill-fitting assumption about you.

Theories and you -- they are not the problem. She is the problem.

Good therapists take their cues from their clients. They do not try to force you into a mold, a diagnosis, a story of their own.

Tread lightly here. You may have a wacko on your hands.