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I have been thinking about this and I just do not know if my T giving me a hug would change the dynamics of the relationship and would I stiffen up or coil away from him? In what situations would I need a hug? If I need a hug I wonder am I a dissociated mess on the floor curled up in a fetal position and if so shame on him for getting me to that point. Would a hug be a therapeutic tool since I have issues with accepting being hugged?
The only time I asked for a hug from my last T I saw for two years was on my last therapy session as I was moving away.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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