Is this really about needing a hug, or is it about something more abstract and symbolic? For me, it used to be very important for people to give me what I needed and/or wanted. I hardly asked for anything, so how could someone refuse me?

More than once, the issue was I needed T or someone else to say yes to me, no matter what the thing was. Fact is, other people have a right to say no and I had to learn how to live with it.