i've seen quite a few therapists and doctors. most of them have never hugged me, and some i've only had probably one handshake with over the course of months or years.
what's come out of it..... there was one therapist who did hug me, and in the months after stopping seeing her, i realised that her boundaries were awful (she had none), and the therapy was emotionally damaging. at the time i thought her hugging me was because i meant something, but in the end i'd rather not have been drawn into that cluster****, because "mattering" to her was something that made me dependent and only wanting to gain affirmation - which was never going to happen.

i think i've only ever shaken hands with my current therapist the first time we met, and i definitely feel like i matter, because he's always acted in ways that show he's got my best interests at heart.