Hi Tomatenoir, you asked me to say a bit more about my experience. My therapy did not end well. I stopped seeing her as I felt so insecure with her, I talked to her about this before I stopped, and I think that she didn't handle the conversations well. They could have been really constructive conversations along the lines of Ididitmyway's post. After I'd stopped I felt terrible. I only started to feel better when I found a new T. I think that Ididitmyway made some really good points, but I don't know how you get passed the feeling of powerlessness and loss of dignity that the T's boundaries bring up, and I think these are an artifact of therapy. I resolved never to go near any of my next T's boundaries, which may not be the most constructive way of dealing with it.

I also think that Amyjay makes some good points. You don't say what your friends were doing that you wanted them to change, but there does seem to be a pattern in your life. Friends seem to me to be very precious. They sometimes hurt me, but I know they don't mean to and that the hurt that I feel is usually because of my childhood hurts than because of them.