This is indeed a stressful situation. I'm glad that your pdoc says you have made progress, it's very tough for the patient to realize this usually. Are you sure that he wasn't just allowing you to think that you could move also, to help you sort through your options? You do have options. You sound like you are stuck, and you aren't ... but you do need to contact your resources and see if anything has changed for the better in the 13 years...
I know it's a very compelling thought to move when the T moves, especially when you feel no one else cares like T does. Since you have progressed, maybe now you could see another T, and also have a pdoc for your meds? You might be able to, you might surprise yourself.
TC