Wow! Laurie, thank you. Your post meant a lot and don’t feel quite as alone as a hoarding victim. It might be an alternative for me to have my own place someday too for the exact same reasons. I am finding that getting mad at my spouse has no effect, getting angry and breaking inanimate objects has no effect either in trying to express myself. It just makes me look stupid, gets expensive, enables more hoarding to take place. A therapist told me online earlier in the year that the hoarder was hurt by someone in the past and expressing anger by shopping and buying more. I don’t know but it’s good to not feel as alone