Yes, basically connecting once you know them. I knew people basically as acquaintances even though friends but it was all surface level. There was no real connection. I thought that was normal because that was what I was around all my life & that translated into thinking it was normal in my marriage.

I realize that it wasn't normal & I think now that I am learning to really connect to others.....it was the walls I had also built up that my first good T thought she would never be able to break through. For me it was a combination of both walls & not knowing how to connect with others.

I hsve come to realize that connectikn is really importsnt in nit only friendship relationships but definitely in romantic ones. It is the foundation of relatiknships that are more than acquaintances.