So now that I got a response from friend I'm finding it easier to be more positive about the situation. He still might leave after we get the chance to talk it out because I don't think he will care much for my take on the problem, but there's also a chance he could be that same kind understanding person again and we have a real shot moving past this. He doesn't like this any more than I do. I think he still cares, it's just really hard for him right now to care "properly". I just miss the nice comforting version of him so much... But if we can make it through this trial, which is how I'm now looking at it, we could make it through just about anything I think.