Hello Tpmhc: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find PC to be of benefit.

I had written a much longer (windier?) reply to your post. However, in the meantime, MistressStayc posted her reply. And, in reading it, I decided mine was really superfluous. So I deleted it. I do hope you take what MistressStayc wrote to heart. She clearly knows whereof she speaks.

My best wishes to you...