You are not only dealing with emotional manipulation, but you are dealing with emotional abuse. They are one and the same. You are trying to reason with an irrational, illogical person. You are blaming yourself, or looking at yourself for fault, when it's ALL On him. Turning the tables around on you is abuse. Yelling at you is intimidation and abuse. Manipulating you emotionally is abuse.

I agree with the others -- why continue to deal with this? Get out of the relationship. He's not going to change, and you are miserable.