Oh--the boundaries that I set and enforced. I forgot to mention that portion.
After weeks of not talking to me he came out on the deck while I was reading and I said "are you finally here to talk" and he paused and then said that he was out of cigarettes and if I gave him money, he would pay me back $40 the next day....
I told him up front 3 weeks ago that if he was going to be handling his own money and not paying anything towards bills, I would not be helping him when he ran out of gas and cigarettes. So...for the first time ever I said no. I was not stern. I just repeated what I had told him in the weeks prior. He went to the other room and kicked a chair. He came back and said something about a favor human to human. Unbelievable. :-(
I left so that I wasn't tempted to give him money.