Hi all thank you so much for your responses and honest opinions.

I find it really, really difficult to get out of my head space when things like this happen, it's really helpful to have neutral and unbiased opinions.

I have considered leaving, but I want to be certain that that's what I want to do before I jump in to it and have any potential regrets. I'm confused at the moment, because last night I was expecting the same deal and instead I got the opposite.

It's me who normally pesters him to do the shopping when its his turn to get it, instead he messaged me and made the plans himself. Instead of scrimping like he normally does, he was telling me to put whatever in the basket and not worry too much about the cost of it. He got home, and spent all evening until around 9pm tidying the bedroom, sorting all of our clothes out, towels, asking if we needed anything doing etc. Usually he will come home and go straight to the couch because he is too tired from work. He didn't moan or complain when I sat down, and even said he'd sort his own tea out.

Ive been run down and ill the last week, it's the first time he'd looked at me concerningly and asked if I was genuinely okay.He told me he loved me before he went to sleep, and cuddled me this morning when he woke up before I got up to leave for work.

ITSSSSS CONFUSINGGGGG. Especially when the night before (the meat comment night) he first thing he said to me when he came home from work was "I don't want any stress tonight".

This is why my head is a mess because of the inconsistency. One minute he will be like this and the next he will blow up at me for balling his socks up 'wrong' when I was the one made an effort to wash, dry and pair them up in the first place. It would be a lot easier and clear cut to deal with if he was just an ar** all the time. It's left me wondering whether he genuinely does care or he's just doing it because he knows how upset it got me the other night, it is because he feels guilty?!

I feel guilty today myself and I question whether these things were enough to make a big deal out of and leave him after all.