I hope what I am about to write helps.

Most people want to hear they are loved. And love goes a long way to make life smoother.

But love isn't just words or cuddles. Love is also being honest and taking responsibility for oneself to the extent one is able.

I know from experience that to get tangled up with someone who is irresponsible with finances will end in you being taken for every dime. People who are irresponsible like this will go from person to person to support them in their irresponsibility.

Your daughter will see you enabling this behavior (as well as putting up with his emotionally abusive behavior).

I think you and your daughter would be better off on your own. Irresponsibility with finances (and being dishonest) are deal-breakers. Or they should be.

Please consider dis-engaging yourself from this situation.