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Originally Posted by divine1966
I don’t think him being depressed is an issue here. 28 year old not having a job and living at home should be enough warning that he isn’t dating material. In addition if he has no job asking to live with you pretty much asking if you’d take him as a so called “kept” man. Those are all major red flags. I honestly wouldn’t worry about why he is how he is but look into patterns of why would you choose someone like that? Is there a pattern? Do you oftedste people like that? Do you try to save them?
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Originally Posted by divine1966
He doesn’t need citizenship to live in the US as long as he has green card. It’s a very personal decision and not something one needs to be pushed to do. I’d not get citizenship because someone thinks I should. Green card gives him all the same rights ( minus voting).
Saying that, him spreading STD and sleeping around without protection is a different story. I am not sure he wanted love and compassion. He likely wouldn’t be going around contracting and spreading STDs. Him leaving you is a blessing. Please cut all ties so you can heal and move on.
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He wanted citizenship, but kept putting it off. Honestly, with Trump, I think it is a necessity for Latino Americans. ICE may not have a legal right to keep a Green Card holder from reentry, but they can and are harassing Latinos trying to legal reenter the country.
Regarding the acting-out issue, while probably due to his self-esteem issues, it did happen and I should have ended it then.
John
PS - We both wanted the same thing, a LTR. He was concerned that the 15 year age-gap (actually almost 16) scared him that I would die and leave him alone.