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Old Aug 30, 2018, 05:08 PM
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Originally Posted by unaluna View Post
Well, she "loves" him BECAUSE she feels that she is accepted by him. He could be the worst guy in the world IRL - throws his wet towels on the floor or something else that SHE absolutely could not accept - but she doesnt have that information available to her because of the nature of the t relationship. So her love is literally infantile, isnt it? The way an infant loves a good enough caretaker? Thats MY projection!

Eta - is it "real"? Its one sided, its limited, its immature, its needy, its not reciprocal. So it depends on what you mean by real.
That's like the beginning of most relationships though. We're always blind-sided when it comes to love (and it's usually always about ourselves) - that's why it can be such a disappointment when the rose tinted glasses finally fall off. The therapy set up probably inflates the fantasy though.
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