Dear T,

Abuser sibling asked for advice (help) yesterday.

I want to be able to sort out my pain and issues about his abuse of me without him ever coming to know I have these issues. He has no idea about my feelings and issues about him.

I do not think it would be in any way helpful for him to realize that sometimes I hate him and that I dislike him a lot.

Duality is hard. I feel awful. I want validation from you, T...