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Originally Posted by x_BabyG_x
This is why my head is a mess because of the inconsistency. One minute he will be like this and the next he will blow up at me for balling his socks up 'wrong' when I was the one made an effort to wash, dry and pair them up in the first place. It would be a lot easier and clear cut to deal with if he was just an ar** all the time. It's left me wondering whether he genuinely does care or he's just doing it because he knows how upset it got me the other night, it is because he feels guilty?!
I feel guilty today myself and I question whether these things were enough to make a big deal out of and leave him after all.
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This is absolutely textbook abuse cycle stuff. It keeps you from knowing what to expect, walking on eggshells, questioning yourself.
To me, it really does not matter why he's doing it. He could feel guilty, he could 'really care', but the fact is still that he is emotionally abusive and financially unstable.
Of course those are a big enough deal. Wanting to leave is enough of a reason to leave. Take your time to make your choice. It needs to be your choice, after all. You have the power to never deal with being yelled at for stuff like that ever again.
And congratulations on seeing through some of the smokescreen. It's hard to do when you don't know what to expect.