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Originally Posted by QuietMind
Dear T,
Abuser sibling asked for advice (help) yesterday.
I want to be able to sort out my pain and issues about his abuse of me without him ever coming to know I have these issues. He has no idea about my feelings and issues about him.
I do not think it would be in any way helpful for him to realize that sometimes I hate him and that I dislike him a lot.
Duality is hard. I feel awful. I want validation from you, T...  |
QM,
Your second post is right, being abused is not an excuse to hurt someone else. Has he ever acknowledged anything he's ever done or selectively forgotten? I know it's easier said than done but your recovery and needs comes first- you don't have to be there to support him.
