Hon, you are in denial. You are not seeing the abuse, or for some reason, you are not matching his behaviors to those you have read about.

His behaviors are abusive. He IS abusive. Everyone here who has experience is telling you that this is abuse. Excuses for bad behavior is a trait of an abuser.

You need to read actual psychology articles and professional articles, not forums. Please read up on the signs of emotional abuse, and the traits and most common behaviors of abusers written by professionals or experts in the field.

Either way, WHY would you want to stay with someone who mistreats you, and given how you are feeling all the time? He is NOT a high quality person and you deserve FAR better. Know this and understand this. Absorb it.