He has never acknowledged anything but claims it was mutual "effed up things we both did". Which is not true, even when I factor in how both of us have large amnesiac patches. I have enough memories of soaked with terror of him and of desperately trying to avoid him to believe it was not mutual but heavily skewed towards him as being the dominant one.

Plus, at a point in time (with external corroboration), our parents gave him carte blanche permission to punish me in whatever way he saw fit. Which, unfortunately for me, he did over incredibly minor things. Plus plenty of "smaller" stuff which displayed his sadism towards me.

Once I confronted him on a major incident and he claimed he didn't remember and made an excuse justifying it. The other major one I never mentioned because it's far worse.

Several times he has expressed resentment towards me, and he pretty much openly told me he helped me become a functioning adult and sacrificed his well-being to do so (massive reality distortion there), so where I am now is "because" of him and therefore I'm obligated to save him from suicide over and over and hear all his angry rants about how the world and our parents and me owe him for how effed up he is.

My parents abdicated their responsibility as parents onto me when we were young. So I get blamed for his failure to launch by him and them.

Most people in the large extended family feel sorry for him. Including my sister who knows what he did and herself feels he's creepy and messed up. But they put it on me to "counsel" him and I'm branded selfish for refusing to do so any longer. But are they stepping up? No. So he comes to me and he feels entitled to.

When I avoid him, he goes to my sister. Cause he feels she "owes" him too. He displaces his anger towards our parents onto my sister and he's also angry with her. And with me, cause he's "the scapegoat".
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