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Originally Posted by unaluna
Well, she "loves" him BECAUSE she feels that she is accepted by him. He could be the worst guy in the world IRL - throws his wet towels on the floor or something else that SHE absolutely could not accept - but she doesnt have that information available to her because of the nature of the t relationship. So her love is literally infantile, isnt it? The way an infant loves a good enough caretaker? Thats MY projection!
Eta - is it "real"? Its one sided, its limited, its immature, its needy, its not reciprocal. So it depends on what you mean by real.
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It is immature and needy, but can be very real. They first emerged after years and years of being un-needy and self-sufficient, so they did seem foreign (rather unreal) at first....
These are feelings from my past experienced in the present. I think that's what's referred to as the "as if" transference?