((Jello))

Has your friend ever had this type of therapeutic relationship? My guess is not; and if the answer is not then she probably doesn't understand. Damn, we barely understand and we are IN IT.

I think that we do have different relationships with people depending on shared experience.

I have a friend who has been my buddy for about 30 years and I love her dearly.

When we were both in our 30's we were in therapy with different therapists. She kept asking me if I thought about my therapist outside of session and I kept saying no. I had no idea what she was talking about. Every time I think of this now I laugh my butt off.

Transference, Schmansference. I just was never hooked on my last therapist, and I saw her for about 3 1/2 or 4 years!

Until now, I never knew what therapy could be or what attachment is.

Maybe you can still be friends but leave the therapy discussion out of it? Maybe you can still enjoy your shared experience, or maybe you need a break.

It sounds like you have an inner loneliness that I share. I also feel like people don't really know me. Maybe we can have that shared experience?

You aren't alone.