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Moonkin said:
Basicly I'm worried to tell her of my worries of her rejecting me because I"m afraid that'll make her WANT to reject me...

See I'm not giving my T credit

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Actually, you're giving yourself too much credit! You can't control your T, can't make her either want or reject you. Just like you can't control the weather or whether she has family emergencies, etc.

I think it is only in getting to know yourself, the good and the bad, that you can ever get a sense of security; grades depend on how hard we study and how "into" learning we are rather than on the teacher. The importance of grades changes when we start studying and learning for ourself rather than for grades, teachers, parents, or anyone else. Things become easier because we are on our own side rather than working against ourselves.

Therapy works the same way as grades. Going to therapy for what we can learn about ourselves, with our own agenda, and not primarily concentrating on our therapist is the most comfortable way I've found to approach therapy. Truly wondering about ourselves, why we did this instead of that, why we dreamed this symbol, etc. and looking at our day-to-day life and what it reveals, makes things more interesting and understanding comes faster.

If your therapist can't come Wednesday because of snow, it becomes an opportunity, a mini-adventure like in books and movies. How will you play it?