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Originally Posted by Sisabel
I really wish someone would jump in and overhelp me at work. I get stuck with the stuff other people won’t do.
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Anything can be taken to extremes. I suppose that's what makes the difference between helping and overhelping. If you need the help and ask for it, that's one thing, but just grabbing a book out of my hands and turning the pages for me is downright insulting. I'm not THAT helpless!
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Originally Posted by healingme4me
I think I read the other BI article to get a little insight on what the article was striving to achieve in its creation. It had 13 points, the 9 was listed under it. I remember you've brought this up before.
The 13 points article delved into how to shift either perception or empower to overcome such environments. I liked point 9. ""So even if you feel completely out of your league, it's important to at least fake some confidence. Otherwise, people will swoop in and take advantage.""
It is important to reclaim your sense of value to yourself to kind of put up a barrier between yourself and either these internalizations or individuals or both.
Do you have any supportive individuals in your life to bounce feedback off of? Maybe what rubs you wrong about a specific person also rubs someone else in your circle wrong too but they don't have opportunity to say so without your speaking up?
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I wondered if I'd mentioned it here before. It's an ongoing problem. And any time I bring it up, most people mininize it and try to convince me it's not that big a deal. I rarely have my feelings validated. Even if they do realize it's the other person who's being overbearing and condescending, what I'm likely to get is a casual shrug and a "Well, that's just how he is."
It tends to make me not want to go out around people if I can avoid it.