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Originally Posted by Stone92
It sounds like you're having trouble asserting your boundaries. Sad thing is, there's no award for being the most nice and accommodating girl. Sometimes you have to tell people, "No." And there's nothing 'b****y' about it.
You're a person, and you deserve respect and consideration, just like everyone else. If you don't want to talk to someone, don't talk to them. Unfollow and unfriend people who aren't really your friends. You have every right to do that. You deserve to be able to spend your time with people you care about, who care about and respect you in return.
I'd recommend looking up Captain Awkward. She has a lot to say about trying to be 'the nice girl', since she struggled with her boundaries in the same way. It helped me feel a lot better about starting to assert my own boundaries. I hope it helps you, too.
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Yeah I have problems with always trying to be nice and to not piss people off. Also I do struggle with boundaries a lot tbh, people take advantage sometimes.
It does feel *****y to friend someone and then hurt them, if someone has mh problems it makes it a lot harder. But I didn't intend anything more than friends anyway.. it's just letting them down gently gets to the point where I don't like saying flat out I won't ever feel the way they want me to even though I know that is the case.
The guy keeps arguing that I might change my mind at the moment, and I don't want to hurt him by saying that I know I won't. He seems a bit vulnerable and I of course didn't know that when I friended him. If I just friended people I know in real life there wouldn't be much point in doing so as I see them outside of online and can communicate with them that way. Maybe just refusing friend requests is the best thing to do.