I’m sorry your friend hurt you like this.

My son is planning his wedding and tells me his bride has 7 bridesmaids, and some of them are men , and he has three groomsmen. There are no rules written in stone.

There is some reason she did not ask you to be in the wedding party, and you just don’t know it, neither can we guess.

When I got married, I met my husband with my best friend, and I told my mother I wanted to ask her to be my maid of honor. But my mother said she didn’t want her in the wedding party at all because she couldn’t stand to look at her or deal with her. It’s true, she was a throughly obnoxious person. My mother also convinced me that we need to buy the bridesmaid dresses anyway, so I should have my cousin and sisters in the wedding party. It made sense and I did not ask my friend. She was just as upset as you, I am sure.

Then, when she got married she did not invite me to her wedding at all. And all this back and forth between best friends and enemies went on until only recently, when she went so far over the line I had to defriend her for good. Yes, I know I was wrong about going with my mother’s decision. But, honestly, she was never a true friend. Anyway—

Your friend deserves a heartfelt explosion from you about how crappy that was of her to exclude you and what a nerve she had to even take you to look at rings. Should you go off on her? Probably not.

Instead, it’s probably best to keep your distance from her, attend her wedding, and show your disgust reflected in their gift.