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coralproper: hey, I am not welcome in my christain dominated community either (the church) with my apparently damaged mind, so this comes at no suprise to me

I am sorry to hear that you've felt shunned, unaccepted and not welcome here coralproper. salukigirl has clearly felt the same way at times. I feel confident that many people, including some who may not feel comfortable speaking openly, are equally discomforted by your statements but I'm glad you shared them. Just because something makes us feel uncomfortable or is painful to us, doesn't mean it shouldn't be said. Sometimes, what isn't allowed to be said is in fact, that which most needs to be spoken.

Sometimes, we're doing something harmful when we think we're doing something helpful. I can think back to times in my own life when I've done this and that carries a bit of a sting too. When I look back, I can see things from a different perspective. I wish I could go back and change those things but what's done is done. All I can do now is learn from it. And learning is often a very ungraceful and clumsy process.