I was married to a guy (for way too long). He had a high IQ but not a tiny bit of common sense. He did things that over time caused me to treat him like many things listed because his behaviors over time caused me to treat him that way.

When someone continually believes that what they tell you is reality when checking out the validity prove them wrong it is obvious ther are NOT someone to be trusted.

I will only treat people like that if I observe them for quite awhile & realize that the treatment is justified. I mean really if over the years when you tell someone instructions & they look at you as if you are speaking in a foreign language & no one else has problems with instructions you give.....it is pretty obvious there is a problem.

I never jump to conclusions or make assumptions but over time with observation the way I deal with the person changes.

My X- H was totally oblivious to what he was doing but it became more than aggrevating to me & even when I pointed out the issues he seemed tp be totally incapable of changing.

Sometimes it is more than just vibes that are given off. If most people are like me it would have to be continuous behaviors not just vibes.