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Originally Posted by Arbie
Anything can be taken to extremes. I suppose that's what makes the difference between helping and overhelping. If you need the help and ask for it, that's one thing, but just grabbing a book out of my hands and turning the pages for me is downright insulting. I'm not THAT helpless!
I wondered if I'd mentioned it here before. It's an ongoing problem. And any time I bring it up, most people mininize it and try to convince me it's not that big a deal. I rarely have my feelings validated. Even if they do realize it's the other person who's being overbearing and condescending, what I'm likely to get is a casual shrug and a "Well, that's just how he is."
It tends to make me not want to go out around people if I can avoid it.
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Sounds like my situation is different. Because I’m such a “doer” people take advantage of me. They sit back and let me take over and some how I end up being accountable for other people’s stuff. It’s a big problem for me at my work. It’s really really hard for me to sit back and watch stuff not being done and I have to work hard to tell myself not to step in and do more than my share. That said, I would never take work out of somebody’s hands like that. It’s terribly rude and not my place. But being so exhausted lately, and tired of being taken advantage of... if someone literally grabbed my work out of my hands today I would give them my blessing. [emoji20]