when it is against the body, i try to step in - but i can't always. at one point, that part had been given something she wanted and then was severely acting out on me and i destroyed what i had given her. she was silent a long time after that. i can't give her free reign or she is out of control. she is, after all, 10 yrs old - she needs a strong mom sometimes... when i can remember that she's a kid.