Just saw your post. Never thought of it from that angle. Thanks for the rant! Integration has never been a goal for us. Partly cuz knew two people who worked hard to achieve it. Supposedly did but both fell apart when life's nasty surprises occurred. Perhaps you have hit on the reason. We always admired the various, seemingly ingenious coping mechanisms our system developed. Our system has the ability to get rid of ones we no longer need, refine ones that are working, develop new ones. That takes coordination, mutual assistance & (darn) work. Just like external family relationships. It's taken a long while but we now also have the ability to live in the present...most of the time...& even be happy. Had been thinking recently about what it would be like to integrate which we kind of thought of as being normal. Always greener on the other side of the fence!! Hope this finds you in a much better place than when you posted.