I make out she could possibly have something called neuroticism. While it's a matter of pride to see your child becoming a doctor or even get accepted in med school, it is not shameful to pursue your true interests "even" if they're in fine arts. She isn't paranoid, she just seems to have an anxious personality. Your post reminds me a lot of my mother who is on the extreme end of "academics is everything." I am a pre-med, not because of her, hell no, but I am pursuing my passion.