Well, stalk is a strong word for the behavior of driving by a T's house to see where he/she lives.

I would never do it- it isn't in my wheelhouse of issues and I want to avoid my T's real life lol , but I don't see it as harmful or intrusive on the level of "stalking" .

I have no clue what the exact legal definition of stalking is, but I think it involves a pattern.

I do think the examples above flavor the act as more or less intrusive- like if T lives in the middle of town square or on a dead end road in the woods etc. Driving by is different from sitting in the driveway or looking in the windows or going through the mail. It is different if the client has been told no and does it anyway.

I do see your point though. I would be freaked out if a parent of a student I taught in school decided to track down my house after a parent-teacher conference. Would I call it stalking - probably not as a one time occurrence. Would I lobby to move that kid out of my class BOOM the next morning. Nope . If it happened several times, yup.