the question about a mistake or not was telling his parents about everything that is going on....not whether my choice for divorce is wrong. My choice of divorce is based on his behavior....whether it's caused by a stroke or not....if he chooses to act like a jerk even if he finds out the cause of it is something physical....then my choice to leave is definitely valid based on my need for sanity....it is always his choice of how he behaves....so I have to look out for myself.

Debbie